This is the second conversation I had with James, who recently lost a leg to cancer. He’s still trying to regain his balance, both physically and emotionally – the adjusting process leaves him feeling a bit vulnerable, which is why he might react in a more pronounced or extreme way to certain situations.
Don’t force or rush things – he will do things on his time. His gruffness is learned behavior. He’s taken it on because it gets him what he wants and doesn’t realize there’s another way. Doesn’t realize it comes across as antisocial and is not acceptable among friends and loved ones. I explained this to him. He was surprised and wants to do better. He also says he will try to communicate his needs more clearly to you, so start watching and listening more carefully. For example, on a walk, he might look up at you and try to catch you attention and either smile, show worry in his eyes, lead you to pause, or turn back. If you actually hear him saying things to you in your head or even think you get his meaning, then you do! I explained how his “grumbling” can come across and that there are more positive ways to interact with you and communicate. He said he will work on it. I recommend that when it happens, instead of fighting fire with fire and strictly correcting (not saying you do), explain from your heart how that makes you feel and tell him how a more loving reaction or at least less harsh, would be much better for you and your relationship with him.
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